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Compliant children and their behavior

“God did not intend for adults and their parents to have the same relationship as they did when the kids were small”. (Pg. 96) Dr. Dobson

I think that is an interesting statement. It suggests there are parents who continue to treat their child at a certain maturity level though the child should be well past and beyond that stage. He is suggesting this is not the best thing for the compliant child. Maybe because they tend to rely on the adults behavior moreso than a strong-willed child.

“Growth and maturity demand that children wiggle free from their parents clutches and establish independent lives of their own”. (Pg. 96)

He makes a couple of other points about the compliant child, that its challenging for the compliant child to navigate through the daily life style of the strong-willed child. And there is a tendency for the compliant child to internalize their anger.

The best thing we can do for them is provide a firm and certain faith. Teach them their are consequences for their actions.

Let both grow together until the harvest. At 1 harvest time I will tell the reapers, “First collect the weeds and tie them in bundles to be burned, but then 2 gather 3 the wheat into my barn.” Matthew 13:30

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