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Overriding the negative emotions for your child

“When bonding fails to occur between parents and a particular child, both generations stand to suffer. The mother, especially, is likely to experience great feelings of guilt for her lack of affection for this individual”. (Pg. 84) Dr. Dobson

But as the image below illustrates we can override whatever prevents a parent from having the necessary affection for that child.

“First, I believe it is possible in many cases to override one’s emotions by an iron-clad determination of the will. Feelings often follow behavior. If you make up your mind to love and care for each of you children equally, you might be surprised to find that the barriers isolating that “special” boy or girl are crumbling”. (Pg. 86) Dr. Dobson

Truly I tell you, whoever says to this mountain, Be lifted up and thrown into the sea! and does not doubt at all in his heart but believes that what he says will take place, it will be done for him.

For this reason I am telling you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe (trust and be confident) tha it is granted to you, and you will get it. Mark 11:23-24

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A Love That Lasts Forever

Pg. 265 (Gary) “But don’t get the impression that heroic love is all self-sacrifice.  From looking at my own marriage and hundreds of others, I’ve come to understand that enriching the life of another is often more satisfying than doing something for ourselves. As we reach out to another, our own needs for fulfullment and love are met”.

This is one of the most incredible stories of self-sacrifice. Words can hardly describe the commitment of this father. If you have already seen it, then it may be worth seeing again. None of this would be possible without this father’s love and commitment.

How much is enough? Sorry to point out the blatantly obvious but can you imagine the time this father has invested into his child’s life beyond sports.
I’m just sitting here mulling over what he must have sacrificed, things he gave up, appointments he missed, and sleepless nights he must have experienced.I suppose there have been heaps of opportunites for him to be resentful. But his actions demonstrate his heart.

John 15:9
Just as the Father has loved me, I have also loved you; remain in my love.

Its like we discussed in earlier posts, sometimes it would be better for our spouse, if we treat them the way we treat a neighbor.

Romans 13:10
Love does no wrong to a neighbor. Therefore love is the fulfillment of the law.

Online book study — Making Love Last Forever by Gary Smalley.

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Expecting Too Much From People Kept Me from God

This is an online book study — Making Love Last Forever by Gary Smalley.

“If we are trying to stuff people into our battery packs, the result is usually anger when they disappoint us. People are not good at not allowing us to use them.” Pg. 109 (Gary)

What he is talking about is the concept of a toy doll with a battery pack likened to us, and the need to keep the battery charged for everything to function well. If the instructions say you need AAA batteries then AA will not work. No matter how many times you attempt to stuff a AA into the AAA slot, it will not work. Same thing for what satisfies human beings. A relationship alone cannot supply you with the satisfaction you need. No matter how many times we attempt to fill the void in our life with relationships, work, entertainment, busyness, etc. it will not satisfy. That void is reserved for the creator.

In order to avoid massive amounts of energy loss, its important to stay connected to a personal God. He (Gary) gives a list of 4 reasons that kept him from God. We are discussing number 3.

“1. My Doubts Kept Me from God

2. Hypocrites Kept Me from God

3. Expecting Too Much from People Kept Me from God

4. Expecting Too Much from Job Kept Me from God” Pg. 106-112

I want to go back to that first statement, “If we are trying to stuff people into our battery packs, the result is usually anger when they disappoint us. People are not good at not allowing us to use them.” Pg. 109 (Gary)

This is worth repeating, I believe it represents a large amount of unhappiness in the world today. Do you know someone who is obviously attempting to find happiness in another person? Could we be doing this sometimes and not realize it? There are probably extreme examples of this as well as subtle all around us.

Reality seems to be that people will always fail at bringing wholeness to your life. Is it a true statement that our friendships and marriage are conditional? So far in my lifetime, God is the only one who has accepted me unconditionally. I’m just saying, if you kick your friend in the teeth will they respond by asking you what time you wanted to meet for lunch? I don’t think so.

Here is my disclaimer: I am not suggesting we lessen the importance of our marriage or friendships, just attempting to balance them with the creator of the universe.

25″For I satisfy the weary ones and refresh everyone who languishes.” Jer. 31

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